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Siblings split on mother’s health care

Dear Annie: My three siblings and I are in a terrible situation right now over our 88-year-old mother. When she first moved into her seniors residence almost a year ago, one of the papers that we were asked to fill out was a DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) form. We didn't think it was a good time to talk to our mom about it because she was going through a lot at the time, and we didn't want to upset her further. We couldn't agree about what to put on the form (it was a two-two tie). Since my brother is named as her "power of attorney" in case of incapacity, even though our mom wasn't incapacitated, we agreed to let him decide. So, it was indicated on the form to give CPR if necessary (so, no DNR order).

Aging mother causing strife

Dear Annie: My family is dealing with an aging mother. Since my father died, she has moved often. Every place she moves to eventually has some issue, and she starts complaining. Soon she is driving me crazy about whatever it is. Even after the problem is solved, she'll find something else to focus on.

In need of impartial assessment

Dear Annie: My oldest sister has five grown children. Four live out of town, and one lives with his mother. My sister has never been able to stand up for herself very well. The out-of-town children have been trying to get her money. They have even somehow made the court send her a letter to appear for a 30- minute evaluation to see if she has dementia. My sister is fully functional and takes care of paying her bills, cleaning her home, cooking, etc. She's not crazy or dysfunctional; she's just who she is. The outof-town children have put together a letter of character assassination against her other son and the rest of the family (myself included). I have never seen such a blatant bunch of lies and have never heard of a story worse than this when it comes to children trying to get a parents' money before they pass. Although, I did have a sister (we no longer have a relationship) who tried to get money from my mother as her inheritance before she died. The oldest child of my! Sister is the ringleader. He even went so far to say in the court letter that any and all expenses would be paid by his mother's investments.

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